फिर बेटी क्यों नहीं चाहिये?

She was in her womb, ready to sip in the first free air of her life and she, she was scared.

She should have been happier, on the contrary, and should have been ready to welcome her first child in this world. But no, she was scared. She had actually fooled her better half and her in-laws all these nine months by making stories of a baby boy. She did not go for a foetus' sex check-up for two reasons, first, it is illegal in India, for obvious reasons, and second, she always wanted this to be a surprise for herself.

In this world, if you are a woman, you have to be equal to God. If you are not, you cannot survive.

For her also, as soon as the day came, she was almost dead, not because of the birth pain, but because of the gender of her baby. In the OT, as soon as her baby cried, the doctor asked her to guess whether it was a girl or a boy, and her situation of not being able to save the baby if someone hears it’s a girl, made her say it’s a boy.

Ah! Such pain.

She was overwhelmed when she knew it was a girl, as that’s what she wanted. The joy and happiness, was followed by a long and lonely path. It was then that she knew that her struggle has just begun.

She had to be more than a mother and more than a woman. She had to protect this little angel from being dead and had to keep herself safe all the way just to ensure her girl’s safety.

Her good news became their bad news and the worse started happening. The birth of the girl child made everyone devoid of happiness and she became the main culprit.

India is known to be a country of values and ethics. But the reason, it is illegal to check the sex of the foetus, says it all.

As a matter of fact, the families who do not want a girl to be born in their “Khandan”, have the mother of the house as the leader, a woman. Her partner is her daughter, a woman again. They want a beautiful and “Susheel Bahu” but they do not want a girl to be born in their families. And the men who support these, for them it's just one question that I want to ask.

मां चाहिये

बहन चाहिये

पत्नी चाहिये

 

फिर बेटी क्यों नहीं चाहिये?

At times, when I sit and recall this story, I fail to understand the mind-set of these illiterate people. Had the ancestors of these families followed the same process, all the women had been long gone, so how on earth, would that family have a ”Vansh”? What would these women do of the “so-called Vansh”, they are not Hanuman or Ashwatthama, after all.

The world has developed a lot in all these years due to Globalization. But I think, the word Globalization should be changed and renamed to Partly-Urbanization because most part of the world still need to purify their thought.

Are You Emotionally Intelligent?

It is very important to know that emotional intelligence is not only restricted to a personality domain, where it helps us to recognize our emotions so that it can help thoughts to generate in our mind which in turn, helps us to understand the meaning of emotions so as to create a good emotion as well as a good thought, but it is also considered as another type of intelligence which is different from IQ.

The ability of dealing with emotions differ from person to person and this difference is present in such a way that it is not only complex but is also varied. Thus, one can consider different types of abilities which can be compiled as:

1. To detect someone's emotions by their gestures, the posture of their body, the pitch of their voice and the way they talk.

2. To understand the precursor and consequences of emotion. 

3. To smoothen our thoughts by evoking a particular emotion.

4. To balance the thoughts such as anger and sadness, which are negative.

For different types of life outcomes, EI (Emotional Intelligence) has a significant predictive validity. According to a study, it says that attitudes, job skills and leadership factors are promoted by EI. In another study, a meta-analysis of EI was done and it was found that EI did not have predictive validity beyond that which was found for general intelligence; however, general intelligence did signify performance beyond that was found by EI.

It is often assumed that a person's intelligence remains constant with the change in his or her environment. However, the results show that, instead, a person's score is constant relative to his or her age group. So, a 17 year old teenager can solve a problem more easily than an 8 year old kid.

Research says that there is a change in IQ following early adulthood. After a number of researches done on the age groups ranging between 21 to 60 years, it is found that due to the age difference, there is a decline in the function of intelligence. As there is a cross-sectional contrast rather than a longitudinal contrast in these studies, there are many problems related to such studies. The studies in which longitudinal data are available, the decline in the intelligence with age is less obvious. This result is also supported by the researches done in 1990s which were based on the cross-sectional and longitudinal samples. The result also said that the decline in intelligence is considerable in the age group of 65 to 80.

Few people are more emotionally smart than others. A person with more emotional intelligence has better social relations. Someone who can perceive emotions better than others and use them in their thoughts by understanding its meaning is considered high EI individuals. These people can solve emotional problems more easily and are more approachable than others. They are more involved in social activities like teaching and counselling than in occupations like clerical or any other administrative work. These people are smart enough to keep themselves away from any negative behaviour and avoid them as much as they can.

If someone scored high on emotional management of EI test, he or she is more likely to possess a sentimental attachment with his or her family members and have more positive social interactions. These people can be more motivating and can help others achieve their goals.

After taking the Big Five Personality Test one can easily see how the personality traits associate with the overall EI. It measures the personality of a person depending on five factors: Extraversion, Conscientiousness, Neuroticism, Agreeableness and Openness.

Extraversion defines ones orientation towards things which is outside of oneself and also shows how satisfied a person is after interacting with others. Conscientiousness shows how careful and orderly a person is. Neuroticism reflects the tendency to experience negativities. Agreeableness shows how much someone like and try to please others. Openness shows how much a person tries to seek out new experiences.

If answered correctly, one can truly associate the personality traits which are measured with the overall EI.

Globalization – Is it really a blessing?

The world is uniting and moving towards the much advanced way of living. Where it used to take months and years to go from one place to the other; with globalization, it is just a matter of few hours or few minutes. Globalization is making the world walk hand-in-hand and is seen as a very important aspect of development in the human civilization. It has many positive effects on the development of the world and is helping it to conquer even the impossible things.

It cannot be denied that the world has progressed a lot after the globalization came into its effect. But on the same time, this progress has fainted many cultural identities and its charm. The more this world is becoming globalized, the more it is acquiring one color, which is definitely taking away the other colors. There are so many developing countries which are adapting the Western way of living while losing their own local culture. For e.g., China is a country where there are many cultural activities that talks about the beauty of the Chinese culture. The festivals like Dragon Boat festival and Mid-Autumn festival, which have a very unique identity are becoming less popular. Instead of enjoying their own culture, people are more into celebrating the Western culture and festivals. If it continues this way, a day will come when there will be no Chinese culture celebrated and they will only remain in the books.

It is good to learn about other culture, their food habits and their way of living; but forgetting oneself and adapting the other culture altogether, is really a threat for many cultures.

There are different languages spoken in different countries and in different regions or cultures. The globalization has entered into the lives of people so much that they need to interact with people in the other country every now and then. English, being a global language, many people use it in their day to day life. It has also become a sign of dignity and fashion. So, people take pride in talking in English and ignoring their native language. This has decreased the knowledge of the local language in the recent generation. For e.g., India itself is a country with many different languages. There are more than 1500 languages that are spoken in the country. A recent research showed that the upcoming generation of the country do not even know the basic of their individual languages.

This is really stunning. Where the entire world is busy in adapting the latest technology and increasing the value of the shares, the real identity of the individuals is becoming faded. Globalization happened so that the entire world can meet together and think about how to take out the best out of this life. But forgetting one’s culture and singing one song, will definitely make everything monotonous and put the world in a back step, somewhere or the other. Like the above image, may be at the end, we shall be left with just the skeleton of very few cultures while the others will be forgotten, forever.

कुछ दूर मेरे साथ चला जा

और कितनी ठोकरें मारोगे ऐ ज़िन्दगी

अब तो रास्तें आसान कर जा, 

कल की ठोकरें अभी भी तड़पा रही हैं 

कम से कम एक बार तो ये तड़प मिटा जा । 

मैं मिटने को हूँ बस कुछ ही देर में 

मेरे मिटने तक थोड़ा तो रुक जा, 

तू आज भी है और कल भी रहेगा 

तेरी जो ये ज़िद है, वो बस आज भुला जा ।

मैं सारे रस्ते आँधियों और तूफानों के साथ चली हूँ 

अब थोड़ी सी तो धूल हटा जा 

तू ऐसे भी क्या याद रखेगा मुझे?

अपनी ज़िद छोड़, कुछ दूर मेरे साथ चला जा ।